I don't know who originated this quote, but it's annoying. And true.
If you've experienced loss, trauma, abuse, global pandemic?! It seems to be, that those feelings of anxiety, grief, trauma, rage, general unbalance, aren't actually going anywhere.
No matter how many THC gummies you eat, drinks you have, pills you pop, hours of social media you scroll, online shopping you do. Any amount of hours you spend digging into fixing someone else's issues (cheers to projection! Ha.)
Whatever clever coping trick, or projection you choose. Not "feeling" is creating a gunky layer within that will continue to build for years to come.
"Healing" sounds lovely doesn't it?
What we don't realize, is that healing is often just as shitty, or worse, than the shit we are healing from.
Trust me, I have three (ok 5) healing trauma books, all half read. At first, I closed those puppies as soon as I was required to start "feeling" or "acknowledging" - yuck, no thank you, isn't there a pill for this? Surely, eyelash extensions will solve this issue.
Feeling sucks. If you take a moment to allow it, a little bit each day. Sit with your discomfort. Label it. "I see I'm feeling un-easy...short-tempered...anxious"
Sit with it... Breathe.
Then find a way to move it out physically; moving meditation (yoga), dance, sing, lift some weights, run, walk, hike, cry, talk to a friend.
You will slowly become lighter and lighter.
There will be days that shit will creep in and feel terrible and so fresh as you heal ("they" call it "collapse").
Especially as you start allowing it and processing the why. Acknowledge it, allow it, do some healthy releasing. Send yourself to your room so you don't take everyone else down with you, and let the people around you know what you are about to embark on.
It WILL get better. That long-term better, the good kind.
Thinking of everyone processing something they cannot quite explain. This pandemic has a way of bringing up past trauma and experiences, and sometimes it's just felt bodily.
You're not alone in that.
Cheers to being mature and brave enough to face your own healing.
And if anyone needs a way to move it out! Join us Mondays and Thursdays 9am for some all levels flow.
#traumarecovery #anxiety #depression #yogatherapy #yogaquotes #yoga #meditation #healing #recovery #mentalhealthawareness
Happiness is an Illusion.
This time of year can be difficult for so many. Including those who appear "happy".
It can be important to remember that happiness is an emotional response, not a state of mind. Often a response from realizing a desire or gaining an attachment. Self gratification.
We may wonder why we aren't "happy" like others seem to be. We are now, more than ever, in a constant state of comparing. We are being marketed to almost every hour of every day. Our first questions to new people seem to be "what do you do?" as in, how can I compare my ego to yours. Instead of, what outlets bring you joy?
The aim behind the practice of yoga is to develop a state of dispassion. Although that may sound like a state of not giving an F....and it kind of is...it's more a state of accepting the world as it is.
Letting go of desire, attachment, ego.
Giving yourself to a greater purpose, a distraction for the mind, where instead of becoming obsessed with self, with your pain, with your story; you find a purpose greater than yourself and your ego.
It's called a "practice" for a reason...some moments we suck at it. We give in to desire and quickly become addicted to wanting something "else". - chasing the next fleeting feeling of happiness. Or, we get addicted to the comfort of our own pain and sadness.
Noticing and awareness are the keys to change.
Good luck 🙏🤐
#yogaphilosophy #nonattachment #ego #yoga #meditation #yogainspiration #yogapractice #babaharidass
This message is for Mamas. Mamas who feel "the urge" all the time, leak urine, whose streams last less than 8-12 seconds.
Sounds crazy right? Hold your pee? Since we were toilet-trained we've been taught to go when you get the urge - or you'll get an infection. Or, more honestly, you'll annoy your parents by having to go the moment they get you loaded into the car.
Disclaimer: First, see a Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist. Ensure everything is in sound order, that it's OK for you to retrain your bladder. Everyone woman should see a pelvic floor physio annually anyways, as things change.
Here's the cycle to break postpartum that no one tells us about:
This muscle can be retrained. It can take up to 12 weeks to achieve.
Try: Holding it a little bit longer each time you get the urge. Gentle progression, say 15 minutes longer each time (or whatever feels right to you) until you can make that 8-12 second stream (count "Mississippi-ly")
There are other things to consider. One, being Hypertonicity vs #Hypotonicity. Over-engaged pelvic floor needs more down-training exercises to be able to relax and allow bladder to empty fully. Under-engaged pelvic floor muscles need to retrain & learn to engage w/ breath and movement so urine doesn't escape.
Your pelvic floor physio can see where you stand.
Suggestions for #bladderretraining:
Join me in January for Online Core Re-training - 30 mins 3xweek.
Postpartum Core Recovery & The Glutes
Did anyone else have a baby and notice, not only is your tummy pooching or straight squishy, but your butt fell off, never to be seen or heard from again? #mombum
The first step to post partum core retraining is to release non-optimal postural strategies. "Mom bum" is a postural strategy we develop during:
Here's the thing: a Tight Muscle is a Weak Muscle.
Before you can restore the core you must restore your posture and release the glutes!
Are you a glute clencher?
Yes to any of above:
It may be helpful to employ some trigger point glute release with a soft massage ball, or tennis ball (pic 2). Add in some nice chest openers at the end of each night and before any exercise.
Remind yourself throughout the day to sit back into your heels. "Blossom" and relax that bum and breathe!
An invite for mamas looking for online core recovery while the wee one naps - join my waitlist today for January classes. Class will be with other sleepy mamas 3 days a week, where will gain back core strength, continence, confidence and our bums. 30-40mins classes $60 for the month. Pm me or click the link in my bio and join the list!
"If you work on yoga, yoga will work on you" - Baba Hari Dass
Yoga is not comfortable...
There's a big misconception, thanks to big brand "yoga" apparel, social media, and the like, that one has to BE something before they can "do" yoga. Ex: thin, flexible, strong, white, Lululemon clad, etc.
This comes up over and over as to why people aren't "ready" to try.
Here's the thing: yoga is not comfortable. It is also not supposed to hurt, make you feel unsafe, or trigger you in any way.
It is simply not comfortable to allow stillness, silence, emotions, and sensations. To move your body in ways you're not used to moving. To hold positions of strength using muscles you're not used to using. To control the breath. To practice listening to and respecting your boundaries and energy when your ego wants to muscle through.
To slowly develop a feeling of "home" within your own self, when you really want to run.
Yoga, all of its branches, is an ongoing practice. There's no such thing as being bad or good at it because there is always room to modify, expand or deepen. Even if for you that means sitting still for 1 minute instead of not at all. Stopping one bit of inner-dialogue. Letting go of one attachment. Accepting your body does not bend or look like another body, and not compare. Reaching for a tea and allowing a feeling to come through, instead of a (vice of choice) and numbing, even just for one day.
A practice developed to create homeostasis. A home within yourself, in a body and mind that eventually, with practice, WILL become more comfortable: stronger, softer, more flexible, maybe even less "flexible" - as your case may be.
Your instructor, of true yoga, should come from a place of teaching to learn, not teaching to correct. You should feel safe and trigger-free with the language they use and the space they hold. Safe to be you, as you are, safe to practice YOUR practice with your body, your mind, and your spirit, at your own pace and with modifications more suited to your body and mind.
I aim to continue to practice holding this space and learning from others while deepening my own practice.
I always warn my students "if you catch me looking at you, it's only to see how each pose or the language I used is resonating with participants so that I can learn from that, and perhaps offer the class as a whole a variation that might suit certain bodies better next time"
Sara Bylo is an ongoing student of Yoga. Specifically, the non-sectarian teachings from Baba Hari Dass through the Salt Spring Centre of Yoga (in Ashtanga Yoga with the roots in practical Hatha yoga )